Via New York Post If you want to make a woman orgasm, you might want to ditch the devices and learn how to push her buttons instead. Professor Laurie Mintz from the University of Florida has said that women orgasm less than men during sex because of the false cultural messages from books, magazines and media that depict women achieving orgasm from intercourse alone. Unfortunately, pop-culture depictions of sex often leave out a key factor in making a woman climax — clitoral stimulation, the psychologist wrote in an article for the Conversation. Mintz found that just 4% of heterosexual women asked can orgasm from penetration alone, compared to 96% of women who orgasm via clitoral stimulation. Mintz believes a lack of sexual education contributes to the orgasm gap between men and women, which has been documented in various studies for over 20 years. And while research has described female orgasms as being “biologically elusive,” Mintz says that’s really not the case That same study found that women were more likely to orgasm if they had engaged in foreplay, such as with “deep kissing, manual genital stimulation, or oral sex in addition to vaginal intercourse,” the study explained. Women also orgasm faster while on their own, taking an average of about 8 minutes to climax, compared to 14 minutes with a male partner, according to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine from 2018. Mintz said that 92% of women orgasm during masturbation and more women orgasm in a committed relationship than they do during a first-time hookup.

In any relationship, remember that satisfying physical intimacy involves more than just the mechanics of the act itself. While it may be tempting to sensationalize the idea of men “failing” women in bed, it’s more productive to approach this topic with empathy, understanding, and a commitment to healthy communication.

Physical intimacy is a shared experience that requires both partners to be attuned to each other’s needs, desires, and boundaries. Stereotypes and societal pressures can often influence how men perceive their roles in the bedroom, leading to misunderstandings and unmet expectations. Instead of framing it as men “failing” women, it’s more accurate to say that couples sometimes encounter challenges in navigating physical intimacy.

One of the key factors contributing to these challenges is communication. Open and honest dialogue about desires, preferences, and concerns can lead to a more fulfilling experience for both partners. Men and women alike can find themselves grappling with insecurities or uncertainties.

Men need to realize women do not orgasm like men do and it generally does not happen with the act of sex. Get ready to fire up the foreplay fellas. That’s where the magic lives.

You’re welcome.