The Netflix documentary “Tell Them You Love Me” has sparked intense discussion and controversy due to its chilling exploration of a deeply troubling case involving consent, disability, and abuse.The film delves into the disturbing story of Anna Stubblefield, a white academic, and her relationship with Derrick Johnson, a non-verbal Black man with cerebral palsy and intellectual disabilities.

Stubblefield claimed she had a consensual romantic and sexual relationship with Johnson, facilitated through a controversial communication method called facilitated communication (FC).What makes this documentary so unsettling is the stark contrast between Stubblefield’s perception of events and the reality presented by Johnson’s family and medical experts. Stubblefield maintains that Johnson was able to communicate complex thoughts and consent to a sexual relationship through FC, despite evidence suggesting he had the mental capacity of a 6- to 12-month-old child.

The film raises several disturbing aspects:

1. The potential for abuse in facilitated communication: Experts argue that FC is pseudoscientific and can lead to the facilitator projecting their own thoughts onto the non-verbal individual.
2. Issues of consent and power dynamics: The case highlights the complexities of consent when dealing with individuals who have severe cognitive impairments.
3. Racial and ableist undertones: The documentary touches on how white privilege and the “white savior” complex may have played a role in this case.
4. The impact on the victim and his family: The film shows how Stubblefield’s actions devastated Johnson’s family and violated his autonomy.

Perhaps most unsettling is Stubblefield’s unwavering belief in her innocence, even after her conviction. When asked if she ever had doubts about her relationship with Johnson, she responds, “Never,” with what some viewers described as “narcissistic ‘I’m never wrong’ crazy eyes”.

The documentary presents both sides of the story, allowing viewers to form their own opinions. However, it’s hard not to feel a sense of horror at the abuse Johnson endured and the lasting impact on his family

.“Tell Them You Love Me” is a challenging but essential watch that forces us to confront uncomfortable truths about consent, disability rights, and the potential for exploitation of vulnerable individuals. It serves as a stark reminder of the importance of protecting those who cannot protect themselves and the need for critical examination of controversial communication methods.